I've heard the expression "when you get in a romantic, committed relationship it's the cost of losing two friends." And that expression always means me.
Why should you have to lose any of your friends? It's called prioritizing your time and making room for growth. When you leave friends behind, you're shedding yourself from your identity and your past. You're shedding yourself from who you are and taking on this role that may not be your true self.
I get that there are always those sketchy friends you need to just "throw away," but I would really like to think I wasn't one of them. Cue my situation here.
My roommate and I have been friends since we were 16. We're 22 now, have lived together for 4 years and have been through A LOT of boy drama. And I seriously mean a lot-- given that we are young adults and are on our senior year of college. We have had our fair share.
Well, there always seems to be that one boy you keep going back to. . . and I get that. But what if that boy sucks away your personality and then replaces you with this non- opinionated, robotic, dull one instead? People say people change, and I fully believe that they do; however, I also believe that they are still going to be the underlining person you always fell in love with.
So that's the beginning of my story, and I feel stuck and bitter about the whole ordeal. Perhaps even more so because I had to find out my best friend/ roommate is dating her high school sweetheart again through the classic high school facebook post of "in a relationship with..." Thanks, friend. I'm also glad I had to find out through your mother then you tried to lie about the situation. That's helpful.
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